To My 27th Self on your Birthday,
Today you rest your head more than you wish you had to. You have two tubes coming out of the sides of your body, bottles of medicine and a cup of coffee in your hand. I know full well how difficult this is for you but trust me that it is just a day, just a moment and it too shall pass. Perhaps a quiet simple birthday is just what the doctor ordered (pun intended). I decided for your birthday I would write you a letter. An ode to the year ahead and my hopes for you. Today on your birthday may you trust more than ever, that the days to come will bring more joy, more peace, more tears but above all more goodness, God’s goodness in your life.
May this year you grant yourself grace. Grace to fall to your knees, in tears over what is to come. May you allow the tears to fall in the most unlikely of places, in front of the most unlikely of people. Will you let others wipe the tears. Will you grieve. Allow yourself to grieve.
Will you move towards others, inviting others to this story. Know that you cannot do this alone. Know that this is not how God intended our lives to be lived…… alone. You are in this with others, so allow others in.
Will you dare great things, will you follow your heart to the deep ends of the earth. Go on adventures, plan a trip and have adventures in the spaces that you occupy. Adventure doesn’t have to mean a passport stamp but challenging yourself beyond your limits. This year do just that. Dare greatly.
With the same intention you seek great things, will you protect your heart? You are created to be something great, crafted and designed with unique intention. Trust that intention, trust your heart. Care for your heart because it is all you have, you only get one. Boundaries are ok and you have permission to create some.
Will you slow down. Slow down to look strangers in the eyes. But more than that, slow down for yourself. So much life passes in your rushing. One of your favorite quotes says, “I cannot think of a single advantage I’ve ever gained from being in a hurry. But a thousand broken and missed things, tens of thousands, lie in the wake of all the rushing.” Look at what you do this year and the intention behind it. Delight in the things you want to do, not those things you think you must do.
Be patient, there will be days you wish that weren’t there, days you wish you didn’t have to walk through. But trust. Trust that the walking through the hard is still moving to something good.
Love yourself especially your body. Your body is going to change. It looks different today and it will look different tomorrow. Honor your body for being strong, for battling disease and for fighting back. Allow your body to heal, to change and to be what it is, the living and breathing life that means you are still here. Rest in that. And if it shall come that you lose your hair believe youre still beautiful even if it is the hardest thing to do. Believe it to be true……
Above all of these things I hope this year you move towards Jesus. Know that he wrote this story long before you were born and trust he is still writing….. I hope this year you go to him for answers, in your anger, in your joy, in your fear and in your heartache….
“Gods purposes in present grief may not be fully known in a week, in a year or even in this lifetime.” Wayne Gordem
This year may you know friendship, community and the grace that is granted even in the midst of hard. This year will be hard, but never forget that it will be good. It is destined to be good. Because God is always good. “He is showing you what love really looks like and he is building a depth of beauty into your story that life without suffering you would never have known.” Kara Tippetts
Seek joy this year and love all that is the next year….. even the very hard that is breaking your heart in this moment. And smile lots, everyone loves a good smile and you have a good one, even when you have cancer, your smile is contagious.
The you that is writing at this very moment